Anthony sits with his twin sons in his home at Richmond Place, Impact NW’s transitional housing apartments.
“Impact NW was the first place that opened its doors to me as a single parent,” explained Anthony. “They’re more than a landlord—they’re your advocate, and they fight for you. This was a gateway to help me figure out what I wanted to do, which for me is to start a support group for single fathers. They got me on the right track, and helped me figure out what I need to do. And now my kids are thriving more every day.”
Arris, one of Anthony’s twin three-year-old boys.
Anthony is the father of twin three-year-old boys, Arris and Malcolm. Arris is a bundle of energy, clowning and reporting on new discoveries. Malcolm quietly soaks up everything around him, thinking out each next step. The boys speak their own language together, before running back from playing to check in with their dad.
They are one family of 20 living at Impact NW’s Richmond Place, which provides transitional housing for families re-adjusting out of homelessness.
For Anthony, Richmond Place is more than a place to live—it’s a way to get his kids back from Foster Care. He suffered domestic abuse from his ex-wife, who struggles with mental health issues. He had an extremely difficult time finding resources to help him. Anthony said, “There are hardly any targeted resources for single fathers. I was trying everything I could think of, doing everything I knew to do, and no one would help me.”
“They got me on the right track, and helped me figure out what I need to do. And now my kids are thriving more every day.” – Anthony
Anthony left the situation of domestic abuse, and then his ex-wife turned their sons over to Foster Care. They were there for six months while Anthony tried to find housing and continuously ecountered barriers. He said that he got so desperate that he was considering moving back south where he grew up, because he couldn’t think of an alternative.
“Everything lined up because of the people here,” he said. “Otherwise I don’t know what would have happened. There is so much to parenting—it’s not just interacting with the kids. It’s cleaning up after them, getting the groceries, making sure they take the right medications when they need them. It’s a 24-hour job, and the people here are helping me learn to do it better. I’ve also learned to ask for help when I need a break, and ask for advice when I need it.”
Anthony is passionate about helping other single dads in similar situations. He said, “I know so many single fathers, but it’s not publicized. And for men who experience domestic abuse, there’s shame and disbelief. There’s a stigma around it. I used to just run away from the situation. I didn’t think the police would believe me anyway, or I might have ended up the one in trouble. You end up feeling like less of a man. But I want other men to see that it’s possible to get their kids back and get on a good track.”
About Richmond Place
Impact’s transitional housing facility consists of 20 drug & alcohol-free units to house extremely low-income Multnomah County families, many of whom have a history
of substance abuse, mental illness, or have experienced domestic violence. We provide shelter for up to 2 ½ years, working with families to create personalized recovery plans.